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Memories (Real Talk)

The meaning of life is debatable.  Each individual may have their own take on what that actually means.  But regardless of the meaning, I know one thing is important; we must create memories.  Not only for ourselves, but for our loved ones.  I was thinking earlier today (I don’t know what sparked these thoughts), but I was suddenly remembering playing board games with my mother and sister when I was young.  The feeling it gave me to think about those times was amazing.  We would play Payday, Life, or Sorry.  I don’t remember it being often, but I remember it was often enough.  Something that I really enjoyed doing.

I also remember playing card games with my mother, father, and sister.  We would play rummy 500.  I don’t remember how we did it, but we somehow made bets using pennies.  It was so much fun.  I also remember playing backgammon.  I don’t have such fond memories of that one as I remember feeling it was a difficult game to learn.  Too cerebral for a young buck like me, lol.

I hadn’t thought of these memories in years.  But they obviously are embedded in my mind.  They remind me of a time that was not nearly as complicated as the present.  But it also made me think about how important it is to have those moments.  It’s kind of silly because I’m sure a lot of what we do is an attempt at creating them.  However, it’s sometimes those small things that assist with their creation.  Nothing forced or manufactured.  Just an ability to have fun in the moment.  It was much easier to do then, but doesn’t excuse us from doing it now.

I’ve heard a saying that goes something like, it’s not the destination, it’s the journey that’s most important.  I think that’s meant for relationships, but it’s very true.  I think that’s why I like the movie “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.”  It’s about cherishing memories, even if the destination was not planned (like a relationship that doesn’t last).  I guess my overall point is to have fun with life.  Create memories with the person you are with.  Create memories for your family.  Create memories for your children because as my thoughts earlier proved, they stick with you.  They make you feel good to think about.  It makes you love live for what it has given you, and the potential it has as well.  Just my thoughts.

Have a great, memory filled week!!!


Nostalgia Interruptus

Here’s a thought

Facebook came on the scene, and has been a huge hit.  People love it, because it allows you to stay in touch with friends and family, share information, and reconnect with people you haven’t seen in years.  It answers that question, “I wonder what so and so is up to these days.”  Beautiful right?

Not so fast….

What has me thinking today, is the idea of how Facebook ruins memories.  How?  Before Facebook, and for that matter MySpace, you had distinct memories of these people from your past.  You had emotions connected to these memories, good or bad.  Memories that created feelings of nostalgia, that you would revisit from time to time.  However, with the advent of these and other social media mediums, we’ve been reintroduced to these people, and the reintroduction has not always been pleasant.  Some of those happy memories have now been replaced with, “wow, s/he is really an asshole,” or “I can’t believe they support that theory/idea/viewpoint.”  Then there are the users who have the pleasure or displeasure of seeing how well or badly some of us have aged and what we have done with our lives.  “S/he used to be so attractive, but look at them now,” or “I can’t believe they married so and so.”  Finally, for those of us who are softies, we may have come onto these mediums hoping to reconnect with someone we were really close with, or had great times with, only to find that we no longer have anything in common with that person.  Not only do you have nothing in common, but outside of a pleasant reintroduction message (assuming you got one instead of a message-less friend request), you have barely said two words to one another.  :-/

However, the glass can be half full.  Maybe you’ve reconnected and it’s been all good.  But does your current relationship blur the original memories?  Would we be better off leaving those people in the past?  Eh (shrugs), maybe your current view of that person is better than your original memory.  If so, I guess it was worth it.