Monthly Archives: December 2012

A Sense for Life

I can’t see….

The future

But I can feel the intensity of my destiny

Though I don’t know what it is, I’m inspired to continue to travel my path

Certain that I will hit multiple milestones along the way, because I have faith

I can’t see…

What has yet to happen

But I still taste my past

And though each move has long been digested

Who I am, and where I am are all a product of that past

And though my life has been fulfilling, that doesn’t stop my hunger for more

I can’t see…

Many of the challenges coming my way

But I have a nose for problem solving

And I know that life can smell fear

So I keep my mentality kill or be killed

Staying alert as I move forward, not with fear, but with purpose

I can’t see…

All of the success that is awaiting me

But I urge you to listen for my footsteps

Because I’m not walking forward quietly

And the support of my family and friends means you will hear a gang of footsteps

I can’t see…

How it all ends

And though it’s inevitable

My concern is with the here and now

What I can control and influence

And it’s not my eyesight that drives this highway called life

It’s all of my senses, combined with what’s within

My experience, my instinct, and my support

All have me prepared to handle anything that comes my way

So anything I can’t see, will be dealt with….accordingly!!


Real Talk (Real Emotion)

I wrote this back in 2005, and it still has meaning today and so I felt it appropriate to share again.  Enjoy this Second Thought (Real Talk) throwback.

It seems as if we were never happier than during those times when we were burped, hugged, kissed, changed, and allowed to sleep in the arms of the people who loved us.

             In this age of e-communication, we have begun to lose touch with a lot of the human interactions that make us unique.  We have traded in pure emotions for little smiley faces, and abbreviations that supposedly describe how we feel.  As convenient as this may be, it does not satisfy the internal human need to express ourselves, or be the recipient of this expression, physically and in person.  The letters <LOL> do not replace the pure joy we get from hearing the laughter of someone we care about.  Imagine your kid, your niece, or your god- child…now trade in the smiles you love to see on their faces for the letters LOL on a cold computer screen.  Feels kind of empty right? 

             I will admit that it feels good to get an email forwarded from a friend that says some sweet words, or an email that says I’m being electronically hugged.  But, I would trade in every single one of those emails for an actual hug.  It seems as if we are quick to <forward> and <send> one of those emails to our loved ones, but we are not as quick to give a real hug, or express, one on one, how we really feel about them.

             It’s about time that we put some extra effort in to expressing our raw emotions.  After you come home from work or from school, hug someone you love.  Not the half-hearted hug that you give to everyone, but a real loving hug.  Sit down and talk, even if for just 15 minutes, with someone you care about.  Call someone you haven’t talked to in a while, and hear their voice.  Make them laugh, or listen to them cry.  If you have a special someone, give them a passionate kiss, or just lay in each others arms in silence. 

             All of the medications, yoga classes, and fancy stress relief solutions in the world will never feel better than the feeling of being loved by a loved one.  It’s just that simple.  I wish you a good week….


Real Talk (Re-charged)

Years ago, I used to send out a weekly note originally titled “Second Thought,” and subsequently called “Real Talk.”  It was my attempt to speak to a wide range of people on topics that I found to be important at the time of the writing.  Due to personal obstacles, I discontinued writing.  Recently, I’ve thought about picking up where I left off, and I figure this blog to be the perfect forum.  As with Second Thought (Real Talk), I will publish on a topic each Sunday.  For those of you who follow this blog (Train of Thought), I will still post on other days, but Sunday’s will be dedicated to Second Thought (Real Talk).  Note that I will change the name at some point in the future, since the term “Real Talk” is used so frequently these days.

Today’s topic is one that is most likely at the top of everyone’s mind.  On Friday, September 14th, we all witnessed a horrific event take place in Newton, CT.  Our kids are a most precious gift, and it still brings tears to my eyes to know that these innocent lives were taken in such a violent way.

I was reading a post on FaceBook about these killings, and someone used this instance as a justification that there is no God.  How could a superior being who loves us, let something so terrible happen to individuals who have not even begun to live their lives.  I understand this course of thinking, but I want to look at it a bit deeper.  God, this superior being, is all about love…His son Jesus is about faith.  How better to test your love of, and faith in, God than by hardship (I’m not going to go all religious either).  But even beyond that.  Let’s think about the bigger picture…or let’s imagine that God is thinking about the bigger picture.

Terrorist attacks, storms, and massacres….all of these things that sicken the majority of us, fail to make us see that loving one another is the only way.  That peace, and taking care of our fellow man is what will sustain us.  The bigger picture is that these little angels are sitting at the side of God in his kingdom.  But whether you believe in God and heaven or not, the fact is, these 20 babies were sacrificed.  They were taken, and your anger and sadness today, has to translate into something more; otherwise, the losses were in vain.  Some say gun control is what’s needed.  Others turn to the handling of mental illness.  Whatever the debate, the bottom line is about how we treat one another.  The bottom line is, what we identify as important.  We live in a world where we know what’s right and what’s wrong…and we know where we need to have some serious debate.  Yet, we tend to lock ourselves in our own little world and live life as if it revolves around us.

I hate to say it, but acts like this will be repeated…over and over again, until we take a stand.  Good outnumbers evil by a long shot, but evil is much more motivated.  We have to change that.  Doing good, and seeing good done has to take a more active role in all of our lives.  We are not always going to agree, nor do we need to.  But for those of us who have good in our heart, we can’t let conflict turn to unnecessary violence.  We have to take better care of one another.  What that means in practical terms???  I don’t know.  I don’t have all of the answers.  But we can’t continue to be helpless.  We can’t continue to complain about our situation, but offer no solutions.  We can’t continue to let hate, distrust, and misunderstandings be the things that motivate us.  It starts with you in your personal life.  With showing those close to you how much you love them.  Teaching them to love and commit selfless acts.  It’s not an easy thing to do, and it takes work and practice.  You will find yourself “back sliding” from time to time.  But if you continue to work at it…not giving up on yourselves or others, you will get there.  Donate to charities, volunteer to help others who are less fortunate…say a nice word or two to unsuspecting people.  I don’t know, but something has to be done.  Just my thoughts…and I’m not above this advice.  I have work to do as well.  I pray that I’m successful.

Names of those lost:

Charlotte Bacon, 6

Daniel Barden, 7

Rachel Davino, 29

Olivia Engel, 6

Josephine Gay, 7

Ana M Marquez-Greene, 6

Dylan Hockley, 6

Dawn Hocksprung, 47

Madeline F. Hsu, 6

Catherine V. Hubbard, 6

Chase Kowalski, 7

Jesse Lewis, 6

James Mattioli, 6

Grace McDonnell, 7

Anne Marie Murphy, 52

Emilie Parker, 6

Jack Pinto, 6

Noah Pozner, 6

Caroline Previdi, 6

Jessica Rekos, 6

Avielle Richman, 6

Lauren Russeau, 30*

Mary Sherlach, 56

Victoria Soto, 27

Benjamin Wheeler, 6

Allison N Wyatt, 6

Just Because She’s a Girl (for my fellas)

Hopefully, I’m not alone on this one.  But fellas, have you ever noticed yourself checking out a girl that you don’t necessarily find attractive?  It sounds like an odd thing to do when said aloud, but I’m sure I can’t be the only one.  I can imagine the conversation between a guy and his girl

(Average girl walks by, and guy checks her out while his girlfriend is next to him)

G/F: Did you just check her out?

Guy: Um, yeah…I did.

G/F: Are you attracted to her?

Guy: No, not really.

G/F: So, why did you check her out?

Guy: I don’t know…because she’s a girl.

LOL, okay it probably wouldn’t play out like that, but hopefully you get my point.  I’ve found myself checking a girl out, and asked, “why am I looking at her?”  Sometimes, I’m trying to find something good about her.  Does she have a nice smile, does she have nice legs, and so on?  What redeeming feature does she have?  Sometimes, you have to just settle for, “she probably has a really good personality.”  But why do we even care or attempt to make that judgment?  I don’t know.  Maybe we have a desire to classify people in one way or another….attractive, or not.  LOL.  In any case, it’s not that we want to sleep with, or hook up with them in any way.  It’s just that…they’re a girl, so our mind doesn’t allow us to just dismiss her.  I’m sure some guys have met girls who they originally thought were unattractive.  And over time, personality plays a big part, have found themselves checking out that girl.  Again, it’s just because they’re girls.

There are some girls who you don’t check out at all, but those women are in the minority.

My girlfriend will probably read this, so I feel I should post a disclaimer that prevents her from getting upset with me for this one.  I don’t know what to say though.  I’m just being honest.  Maybe, the best thing I can say is, if you ever catch me checking out another woman, it’s not because I’m attracted to her…I’m just doing a quick once over of a being that I’m genetically supposed to be attracted to, and categorizing them…errr, making a judgment….errr….dammit!!!

Grrr, when I read that last sentence (the genetic part specifically), I feel dirty because I’ve heard some men use similar excuses to cheat.  I’m not condoning that at all.  I’m just saying, a man’s instincts (and I’d guess a woman’s as well…that’s my attempt to let men off the hook), leads us to wandering eyes at times.  Ugh, I’m just digging a deeper hole.  Can we just flush this already?

(Not) Spam

I am a second, or a junior, or whatever you want to call it.  If you know me personally, you know that my name is not a very popular one.  I know this, so I don’t expect to run into many people (no one actually) with my name.

I also try to be very smart when dealing with the internet.  One thing I don’t do is open or answer emails from people I’m not expecting an email from.  If it looks suspicious, I don’t open it.  It goes straight into the trash.

Occasionally, I receive an email that is addressed from me.  Immediately I think I’m going to throw it into the trash.  Obviously, someone is spoofing my name and email and attempting to get some information from me.  Then I realize, there is at least one other person with my name….My Dad.  LOL.

It’s sad because it gets me every time.  Arrgh…it’s not spam!!!