I think most people would agree that sex is an important part of a relationship. However, what comes first? Does good sex help make a good relationship, or does a good relationship predicate good sex?
Maybe it all depends on the people involved. Some may just be bumbling idiots when it comes to sex, at the outset, especially if they are inexperienced. Others may just be God/Goddess like right out the gate. Neither of these experiences rely on an emotional connection so if you judge the potential for a relationship based on these early sexual experiences, you probably think sex comes first. Sex is in the drivers seat. Don’t go feeling shallow….I’ve heard plenty of people (honestly, mostly women) say that if sex isn’t good, then they aren’t sticking around. But are they selling themselves short? Could they be missing out on something great in the long run; when/if the emotional connection develops? If your relationships have been full of good sex, and these relationships are in the rear view, maybe it’s time to change it up. Give your bumbling idiot a chance…could be the best sex of your life, and a great relationship would compliment it.
Some of you are second guessing yourselves now. Maybe thinking of taking the less, perceived, shallow route. Giving the emotional part time before yielding to the signs of the physical. Oh, what an argument for waiting until marriage. I mean seriously, regardless of how good, or potentially bad, it may be at first, the emotional connection….LOVE, will cure all. Your frustrations in the bedroom will be forgotten for the greater good of the emotional relationship. Shoot, I think I lost some of you on that one. Ha
My thought is, a good relationship can save bad sex, through communication and a genuine interest in pleasing your partner…but good sex can’t save a bad relationship. It may prolong it, but that’s about it. I felt good as I wrote that and I think it sounds good, but it’s almost a cop out on my part because it leaves a lot of room in between. Can an okay relationship save bad or okay sex? Can good sex save an okay relationship. Is it a good relationship except for the sex? Should we settle for “okay” in any part of a relationship to begin with, and so on and so on. Maybe there’s no right answer, but maybe it made you think.
Share your thoughts if you are so inclined.